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Teacher and Nuclear Family kids

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January 10, 2016

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Teacher and Nuclear Family kids

The evolution process of urbanisation, the race to procure more and more of consumer products needs to strike a balance and provide a sanitised, sensitive, caring loving environment for our children for their physical and mental growth.

A child born in a nuclear family is denied the inherent love, care and affection of grand parents, uncles, aunts and cousins; the value system and the safety of the child boy or girl these days is a big casualty. In a nuclear family where both the parents are working the child is left in the care and custody of a servant hence exposing the child to sexual abuse, harassment, distortion of language and ill treatment. Thus, the child is constantly in a state of fear and exploitation. These conditions are not noticed by the parents because of their job pressure or are overlooked as domestic help is not easily available. This overdependence on the domestic help emboldens them to continue with the exploitation of the child. Before it gets manifested in an unavoidable situation the child either withdraws in a shell or becomes incommunicative with parents; performance in the school is also adversely affected.

Fortunately, in good schools this erratic behaviour is noticed by caring teachers who speak to the child or counsel the parents about these peculiar reactions and change. Mostly, parents do not take the suggestions seriously. If the situation is not mended in time it can leave a permanent scar on the personality of the child which would be manifested in his day to day routine in the form of anger, depression, and feelings of insecurity. Then what is the answer. The nuclear family is a reality; there is difference in environment, generation gap, necessity to maintain the desired living standard, at times non adjustment of grandparents in the new environment who can otherwise take care of the child.

There is a suggestion which may be tried to prove its effectiveness. Like carpool, one of the parents in a group of 8-10 flats / houses can take turn to chaperon these children with the help of domestic help. The presence of one such parent will ensure the safety of every child, provide group safety where the children do their homework collectively, engage in some creative activity, play and rest in the secure comfort zone of a parent. This may lead to group bonding which is necessary for stability of emotional quotient of the child. It may sound a little weird but to save the present generation from the evil clutches of domestic help this may be one of the solutions. The more secure and better option is to get back to the joint family; may be a loose joint family system, which is more suited for our society. This inherent safety net, value system, instilling of traditions and customs will be available to the child right from day one and he will not have to experience the agony of loneliness in the company of electronic gadgets.

The evolution process of urbanisation, the race to procure more and more of consumer products needs to strike a balance and provide a sanitised, sensitive, caring loving environment for our children for their physical and mental growth.

Col Dr K S SainiCol Dr K S Saini, a retired army officer with a doctorate in Literature from Colombo University, is running two reputed schools in Haryana. His leadership and commitment towards quality education and social empowerment has been recognised by many national and international organisations. He received the best principal award from Mahatma Gandhi Rastrabhasa Hindi Prachar Samiti, education excellence award from Silverzone Organization, Bharat Vidhya Shiromani award from Indian Solidarity council among many other awards. He has written extensively on school education for a number of newspapers and journals.

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